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God's timing. Keep reading and decide for yourself. Sometimes, it's just simply not the right time for someone to be caught up in such things. Sometimes, we just don't have the time or energy to deal with the emotions involved. And, sometimes, the other person is just simply carrying too much baggage to work through and needs to find out how to dump it. Love is wanting the highest purpose for someone else. And if you do have doubts, ask questions. But make sure that the other person has integrity.
Love is give and take. What is a true friend? Would you give up your own desires, and your stubborness? Would you deny yourself what others claim to be your "rights" and forget about the many things that you demand in life, such as how your life will be? Can you forsake money, shelter, comfort? Can you leave behind what is best for you when it interferes with what is best for your friend? Could you give your life for your friend? Would you change what you know to be wrong with yourself in order to be a better friend? Would you be willing to open your mind and consider new ideas, while still putting the Lord God Almighty as top priority, for a friend? If you answer yes to these questions, then your friends are truly blessed to have a friend like you. Go humbly in peace and with God.Talking and spending time together is important. Find out who the other person is and what they stand for. It's important to both be honest to eachother from the beginning. Though I know not of what the future holds, I continue strongly, with Christ guiding my steps. I take it one day at a time, one step at a time, careful to not do what could damage future possibilities. Friendship is very important. Without a strong friendship in place, it's very difficult to obtain, and maintain, a healthy relationship. I have found that communication is key to maintaining friendships. It allows us to clear up any misunderstandings that may exist. It is not about me. It is not about her. It is about us: Christ, me, her. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." I Corinthians 13:4-8a This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to "find" love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we. "But the LORD said to Samuel, '...The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.'" Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love. "Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth." Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift. PRE-MARITAL SEX Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love! We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is -- and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person -- then we can say that we are truly "in love." The three keys to that statement are: 1) look at the Word of God 2) be completely honest with ourselves 3) understand the level of commitment that comes with true love.But most importantly if He or She is not a Christian and rejects Jesus Christ Than you must reject them,there sin. Light cannot become one with Darkness, Good cannot become one with Evil. If She or He "now's" Jesus and rejects Jesus than you must reject them!!.separate yourself from ther sin do not be like them, YOU "CANNOT LOVE GOD AND THE DEVIL" Love the sinner but hate the sin separate yourself from there sin but love the siner. I do not belive you can be in love and stay in love with somone who rejects Jesus Christ, So do not marry someone who rejects Jesus Christ!.......... SONS OF LIGHT
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